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The Mistrust/Abuse Schema: When You're Always Waiting to Be Hurt
Do you find it hard to trust people, or expect to be hurt or betrayed in relationships? The Mistrust/Abuse schema may be at the heart of it — discover where it comes from, how it shapes your life, and how schema therapy can help.
The Emotional Inhibition Schema: When Feelings Feel Too Dangerous to Show
Do you find it difficult to show emotions, or feel more comfortable keeping feelings locked away? The Emotional Inhibition schema may explain that pattern — discover where it comes from and how schema therapy can help.
From Defensiveness to Dialogue: Tools for Healthier Interactions
Defensiveness is a common response to criticism, but it can harm relationships, families, workplaces, and faith communities. This article explores types of defensiveness, psychoanalytic roots, and impacts on communication. Drawing on John Gottman’s research and Schema Therapy, it provides practical tools to move from defensiveness to dialogue, strengthen emotional safety, and build healthier connections at home, work, and in spiritual settings.
Breaking the Scrupulosity Cycle: What Drives Religious OCD
Scrupulosity is a form of religious OCD where faith becomes entangled with fear, guilt, and intrusive thoughts. Learn how faith-sensitive psychologist Kylie Walls helps break cycles of obsession and compulsion using evidence-based, compassionate therapy.
You Can Have Faith and Still See a Psychologist
Feeling anxious, low, or overwhelmed doesn’t mean you’ve lost faith. Discover how therapy and Christian belief can work together to support mental health, strengthen resilience, and help you reconnect with peace through faith-sensitive care.
The Dependence/Incompetence Schema: When You Don't Trust Yourself to Cope
Do you struggle to trust your own judgment or feel like you can't cope without others to guide you? The Dependence/Incompetence schema may be at the root of it — discover where it comes from and how schema therapy can help.
The Punitiveness Schema: When Mistakes Deserve to Be Punished
Do you struggle to forgive yourself for mistakes, or find it hard to extend understanding to others when they fall short? The Punitiveness schema may be driving that harsh inner judge — discover where it comes from and how schema therapy can help.
The Defectiveness/Shame Schema: When You Believe Something Is Fundamentally Wrong With You
Do you carry a quiet sense that something is fundamentally wrong with you? The Defectiveness/Shame schema is one of the most painful early maladaptive schemas, discover where it comes from, how it shapes your life, and how schema therapy can help.
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