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Understanding Control in Relationships: Insights from Our Latest Research
Why do some people use control in relationships? Research led by psychologist Kylie Walls (2024) links controlling behaviours to insecure attachment, emotion dysregulation, and shame. This article explores how anxious and avoidant attachment styles contribute to unhealthy dynamics and how therapies like EFT, DBT, and shame resilience work can foster emotional safety, healthier communication, and healing in couples. Includes Christian psychology support.
The Emotional Deprivation Schema: When You've Always Had to Go Without
Do you feel chronically lonely or like your emotional needs are never quite met? The Emotional Deprivation schema may explain why — discover where it comes from, how it shapes your relationships, and how schema therapy can help.
The Approval-Seeking/Recognition-Seeking Schema: When Your Sense of Worth Lives in Other People's Hands
Do you rely on others' approval to feel good about yourself, or find your sense of worth rising and falling with external feedback? The Approval-Seeking schema may be at the root of it — discover where it comes from and how schema therapy can help.
Perfectionism, Scrupulosity and the Quest for Certainty: When “Perfect” Is Never Enough
Struggling with faith-based anxiety or perfectionism? A psychologist for scrupulosity or moral OCD can help you find peace, understand your thoughts, and rebuild trust in your faith through compassionate, evidence-based therapy.
“Why Am I Like This in Relationships?” A Look at Attachment and Emotional Reactivity
Attachment theory explains why we react the way we do in relationships. This article explores secure, anxious, avoidant, and disorganised attachment styles, their links to emotional reactivity and conflict, and how therapy helps create healthier connections. Learn how early caregiving shapes intimacy, trust, and emotion regulation, and discover practical ways to heal insecure attachment patterns for stronger, more resilient relationships.
Breaking the Cycle of Rumination and Worry
Do you stay up at night worrying and ruminating? Discover psychology for Christians that addresses rumination and worry. An Australian Christian psychologist explains schema therapy, the inner critic, and faith-sensitive ways to find freedom from thought loops and live with greater peace.
Exploring the Impact of Moral Injury: Strategies for Promoting Resilience in High-Stress Environments
Discover how moral injury, PTSD, and occupational burnout impact mental health in high-stress professions. Learn about the importance of psychological safety within workplaces and ways to recover from moral injury
Disrupted Attachment, Control, and Emotion Dysregulation: A Path to Violence in Netflix's Adolescence
Netflix’s Adolescence offers a powerful lens on disrupted attachment, emotional dysregulation, and controlling behaviour in young people. Drawing on attachment theory and published research, this article explores how insecure and disorganised attachment, online environments, and unmet emotional needs can contribute to instability, aggression, and relational harm during adolescence.
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