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The Unrelenting Standards Schema: When Good Enough Is Never Good Enough
Do you push yourself relentlessly, struggle to feel satisfied, or find it impossible to rest? The Unrelenting Standards schema may be driving that exhausting pursuit of perfection — discover where it comes from and how schema therapy can help.
The Entitlement/Grandiosity Schema: When the Rules Don't Apply to You
Do you feel that ordinary rules and limitations shouldn't apply to you, or find yourself frustrated when others don't recognise your worth? The Entitlement schema may explain that pattern — discover where it comes from and how schema therapy can help.
The Negativity/Pessimism Schema: When You're Always Expecting Things to Go Wrong
Do you find it hard to trust good times, or feel like you're always waiting for something to go wrong? The Negativity/Pessimism schema may be driving that persistent undercurrent of dread — discover where it comes from and how schema therapy can help.
The Vulnerability to Harm or Illness Schema: When Catastrophe Always Feels Just Around the Corner
Do you live with a persistent sense that something terrible is about to happen? The Vulnerability to Harm or Illness schema may explain that constant feeling of dread — discover where it comes from and how schema therapy can help
The Dependence/Incompetence Schema: When You Don't Trust Yourself to Cope
Do you struggle to trust your own judgment or feel like you can't cope without others to guide you? The Dependence/Incompetence schema may be at the root of it — discover where it comes from and how schema therapy can help.
The Punitiveness Schema: When Mistakes Deserve to Be Punished
Do you struggle to forgive yourself for mistakes, or find it hard to extend understanding to others when they fall short? The Punitiveness schema may be driving that harsh inner judge — discover where it comes from and how schema therapy can help.
The Defectiveness/Shame Schema: When You Believe Something Is Fundamentally Wrong With You
Do you carry a quiet sense that something is fundamentally wrong with you? The Defectiveness/Shame schema is one of the most painful early maladaptive schemas, discover where it comes from, how it shapes your life, and how schema therapy can help.
The Approval-Seeking/Recognition-Seeking Schema: When Your Sense of Worth Lives in Other People's Hands
Do you rely on others' approval to feel good about yourself, or find your sense of worth rising and falling with external feedback? The Approval-Seeking schema may be at the root of it — discover where it comes from and how schema therapy can help.
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